tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post167882109962128118..comments2023-10-30T10:19:13.446+00:00Comments on Daydreamer: Melancholy Advent - mixed feelingsRay Barneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09209429097744326143noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-19150158817544718032011-11-29T14:50:11.013+00:002011-11-29T14:50:11.013+00:00Hi Jenni
I don't know that there is anything v...Hi Jenni<br />I don't know that there is anything very admirable about 'honest' blogging.<br />For me there is no other way, but it is in many ways a rather self-indulgent method of airing one's woes.<br />I suppose it is possible that there may be others 'out there' who feel less alone knowing that there is at least one blogger prepared (nay, only too willing) to articulate their personal angst. <br />Your good wishes are much appreciated. Thanks.Ray Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209429097744326143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-86172533571795917282011-11-29T09:31:16.233+00:002011-11-29T09:31:16.233+00:00We admire you for your honesty. This time of year ...We admire you for your honesty. This time of year is a stark reminder to some of how "it used to be" ,and reminds us sharply that some of those we loved dearly are missing. <br />One of my husbands colleagues holds a Blue Service just before Christmas,where all those who have lost loved ones can have a short time of remembrance before the festivities begin. I am told that it is very therapeutic.<br /><br />Your "virtual friends ", us on the blog, are and will be thinking of you this Christmas. XJennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339994890869186684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-87650336718998076812011-11-28T15:46:33.496+00:002011-11-28T15:46:33.496+00:00Thanks Perpetua. Just hope my 'readers' c...Thanks Perpetua. Just hope my 'readers' can forgive my occasional lapses into misery.<br />I'll try to inject some humour into the next post.<br />The weather, as you so rightly remark, really doesn't help.Ray Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209429097744326143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-83777939183279217852011-11-28T15:43:19.210+00:002011-11-28T15:43:19.210+00:00Dee, thanks for the empathy, It's a comfort to...Dee, thanks for the empathy, It's a comfort to know that there are other people who can look at life' challenges in a similar way.Ray Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209429097744326143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-18610199209813282832011-11-28T14:30:03.226+00:002011-11-28T14:30:03.226+00:00Ray, you're right. This isn't a cheerful p...Ray, you're right. This isn't a cheerful post, but it is searingly honest and what you write is very true for many people. Loneliness hurts and the added sense of loss you have experienced makes it hurt more. The weather doesn't help either. I do hope you feel a bit better todayPerpetuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214396019726161983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948117492116997244.post-44817821655550664682011-11-28T00:07:29.459+00:002011-11-28T00:07:29.459+00:00Dear Ray,
I empathize with what's happening to...Dear Ray,<br />I empathize with what's happening to you today. Like you, when I feel melancholia hovering within, I search for the catalyst. Sometimes, its elusive; sometimes, not. But nearly always it involves some kind of change. And change can be so risky. But the death of someone is a change that can't be revoked. So that brings with it a sense of helplessness.<br /><br />Be gracious to yourself please in the next hours and tomorrow. None of us is an "island entire unto ourselves". We are all part of the "mainland" as John Donne wrote so tellingly. Your grieving today reaches out into the Oneness of All Creation and brings healing. Of this I'm sure.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.com